I #Love My #Mom (Mother’s Day)

Holidays are a special time and should be treated with a certain level of respect, introspection if you support them, and curiosity if you aren’t familiar with them. Which is why I wanted to focus on Mother’s Day, while it’s still somewhat timely.

Yes I know that this post comes a bit late, but I think it’s rather appropriate given what I’ve witnessed recently and uncovered about the history of the topic at hand. Has anyone else noticed the cultural shift of Mother’s Day in the past couple of years?

It USED to be a holiday of commercialization, sprinkled with some sentiment. Now like so many other holidays, it’s one of self-promotion sprinkled with sentiment.

Fortunately I am not alone in this theory. Cracked seems to have caught on too, which they so cleverly showcased in a recent video of theirs. Don’t worry I embedded the link for you.

I’ve written it before, and I’ll write it again – I love being an artist, and am so thankful for the arts. That alternative lens of culture can be incredibly handy. When you see someone (or a group) parody something in culture, you know it’s a sensitive topic and full of opportunity. Mother’s Day is supposed to be a day about our individual mothers, not a day for the idea of mother or a theme to boost our own agendas. Heck, that’s why the word “Mother’s” is a singular possessive, to emphasize each families own mother.

But timotheories you’re writing about Mother’s Day and using it to talk about the arts, you big hypocrite!

Good point dear readers, good point.

I’m in between a rock and hard place on this one, because I believe it is important to celebrate our mothers, but not in the way that companies would have us do, like Hallmark, or social media would have us do, like Facebook and Instagram.

And it’s a challenge for sure – I admit that I took a selfie with my mom on Sunday. But then I started to think about it, and did some research. And as I mentioned above, I unraveled that Mother’s Day was first celebrated over a hundred years ago by one Anna Jarvis. She did this in memorial of her mother. You see friends, that memorial to Mother Jarvis was the first example of the compromise between sentiment and instant gratification.

You know how that quote which states that history is written by the victors? Well maybe the problem with Mother’s Day is not that people don’t respect it, but that they respect it too much. Whenever you make an idea and see it through to it’s conclusion, ie sharing it and having it shared without your involvement, then rules of engagement state it is no longer your idea. Anna Jarvis may have had the best intentions in the world, but when she came up with the idea to have a holiday for mothers, she probably didn’t anticipate that people would use that celebration to celebrate rather than focus on appreciation.

Maybe I’m wrong, but I think Mother’s Day is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do, celebrate “Mother’s” whether that’s what our moms want or not.

What do you think? Have I finally gone over the edge? Leave some comments below! Otherwise, I’m out of theories for now, and the weekend is creeping up, so I’ll see you on Sunday with some other under-appreciated things.

Tim!

A Room With A View (Room review)

Perspective is everything when it comes to communication. One person’s experience is unique compared to another, but factor in variables like age, gender, ethnicity, and education, and things become that much more nuanced.

Today’s film review features a story that addresses exactly that idea. Shall we?

 

 

 

Room (2015)

Cast: Brie Larson, Jacob Tremblay, Sean Bridgers, Joan Allen, Tom McCamus, William H. Macy
Director: Lenny Abrahamson
released on blu-ray March 1, 2016
********** 10/10

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IMDB: 8.3
Rotten Tomatoes: 94%, Audience Score 94%
The Guardian: *****/*****

Leonad “Lenny” Abrahamson is an Irish film and television director. He has 5 feature films under his belt and now one Academy Award nomination for Best Director. And I’ll be the first to admit I knew absolutely nothing about him before looking into this review of Room. Which I only decided to watch after sitting down for the 88th Annual Academy Awards.

But I’m sure glad I did, because this movie packs an incredible emotional punch and hits you right in the ethics too. But let’s take a quick peek at the plot (I’ll refrain from spoiling the end).

Taken from Wikipedia and edited,

 

In Akron, Ohio, 24-year-old Joy (Brie Larson) and her five-year-old son Jack (Jacob Tremblay) live in a shed they call Room. They share a bed, toilet, bathtub, television, and kitchen; the only window is a skylight. They are captives of Old Nick (Sean Bridgers), Jack’s biological father, who abducted Joy seven years prior, and routinely rapes her while Jack sleeps in the wardrobe. Joy deals with depression and malnutrition. She allows Jack to believe that only Room is “real,” that the world on television is dreams.

Old Nick tells Joy he’s lost his job and cannot  afford supplies. When Joy reacts badly, he cuts their heat and power. Joy tells Jack about the outside world; which he rejects initially. She has Jack fake a fever, hoping that Old Nick will take him to a hospital where he can escape, but Old Nick decides to return the next day with antibiotics.

Joy wraps Jack in the carpet and has him play dead so Old Nick will remove him from Room. Falling for the ruse, Old Nick places Jack in the back of his pickup and drives through the neighborhood. Awed at first, Jack then jumps from the truck and attracts the attention of a passer-by. Police arrive and rescue Jack. Based on his recollections of Room and what Joy told him, the police find Joy and rescue her. Old Nick is arrested, and Joy and Jack are taken to a hospital.

Reunited with family, Joy learns her parents (Joan Allen, William H. Macy) have divorced and her mother has a new partner, Leo (Tom McCamus). They stay at her childhood home where her mother and Leo reside. Her father cannot accept Jack and leaves. Jack struggles to adjust to life in the larger world, speaking only to his mother and expressing a desire to return to Room. Joy struggles with anger and depression, lashing out at her mother and ignoring doctor’s appointments. She agrees to a television interview, but becomes angry when the interviewer questions her decision to keep Jack with her in the room after his birth, rather than asking Old Nick to leave Jack some place that he could be found.

It is an intimate and emotional story that continues an incredible arc.

Pros: Though an incredibly dark topic, the narrative never feels without hope or promise. Brie Larson does a fantastic turn as the mother and breakout young actor Jacob Tremblay is amazing as well.

Cons: The second half is quite difficult to digest and as a result it feels like it could have been given more of same treatment, looking through Jack’s eyes as the first half.

Runtime: 118 minutes

Points of Interest: Brie Larson spent a month in isolation without phone or internet and maintained a strict diet to prepare for the role, it caused her to become depressed in the last week. Old Nick is another name for the Devil in Christianity.

This is an incredibly powerful film depicting a very intimate and traumatic mother-and-child story. It is handled in such a way that you get to experience it from two perspectives simultaneously, with many of the objects, people and events often being fun or scary for Jack whereas they are painful and torturous for Joy.

I highly recommend you go see this film, because whether you’ve read the book or not, the story is unique and the characters are well acted.

And that’s all I’ve got for today, dear readers! Come back tomorrow for some wisdom, and please leave some comments as well as subscribing to the blog if you want to see more!

Tim!